UPDATE: KS mom accused of sex with teenage boy, 14

Story is from Columbus; the boy was working as a baby sitter. The woman, 23, has agreed to a plea deal -- she'll cop to a reduced felony count of attempted aggravated indecent liberties with a child. Sentencing hasn't happened yet, but she will be required to enroll as a registered sex offender.

Comments

[Truth Teller]

Why do we let WOMEN get away with abusing CHILDREN?
I guess they really have come a long way baby and can have it ALL with no consequences. YOU GO GIRLS.

[Jellybean]

"Can have it ALL with no consequences"???? Since when is sex with a 14 year old boy having it all? ICK.

Anyway, the victim requested the plea bargain - that's why she got the deal.

[acethehonkey]

JB, yes the victom did request the plea. but you have to admit there is a double standard here. A man can go to prison for years for chatting explicitly with a officer that is assumed to be a minor (which I DO NOT condone). But a famale teacher or single mother actually has sex with a minor and gets a slap on the wrist?

[Jellybean]

Yes, there is a double standard, and I'm not sure why.

Is it any less traumatic to the victim? Could be - young boys have very different attitudes about sex than young girls. Perhaps that has something to do with it.

But, frankly, if the concensus is, "let's lock up the sick chicks for just as long as the men" - you won't hear me arguing. It's fine with me.
I'm picturing a 40 year old floozy with blue eyeshadow and a hairdo by Aquanet checking out my son. Yep - she's gotta go.

[Biggin]

These women that do this are looking for their emotional equivalent. We see this very often.

[Tom K]

I really don't think that a 14 year old boy wants his lover to go to jail. I would hate the judge forever for forcing me to testify if I were him. I don't think he feels or ever will feel that a crime was committed against him.

[Tom K]

That is, not by his lover.

[Marvin]

Yet AGAIN James neglects to post a picture that would help us all make a superficial judgment of guilt or innocence based on the MILFiness of the defendant.

"Is it any less traumatic to the victim?"

Are you KIDDING? This is a 14-year-old BOY. If he's even remotely normal, he's out bragging about it and getting high-5's from his buddies. He's "the man" in his world.

Would that it had happened to me when I was 14!

[James Hart]

Mea culpa, Marvin, mea culpa.

[Rosie]

This is my post from the orig story, for what it's worth:

It's interesting, there is so much discussion about the double standard where male and female adults who have sex with underage partners is concerned. The female victims are "molested" and the male victims are "lucky."

It's an unpopular view, but there's some social truth to it. My late husband told me that when he was 13 he was debauched by an older girl, and his buddies were all very jealous (she was only two years older). Later, when he was 16, he regularly visited a 32-year-old married woman, to the intense envy of his buddies at the time, who wanted to know details (which he refused to give them to their chagrin). He told me it was the best time of his young life. He was far from being a victim of any kind. He was a hormone-crazed teenage boy, who felt himself elevated to the level of a studly star to be welcomed into the bed of an older woman.

There are probably plenty of girls with similar experiences. I was one, but I don't wish to go into details. I never felt victimized by anyone, though some of my partners were over age and could have gotten in a lot of trouble since a couple were prominent citizens.

With all due respect to those who have been assaulted against their will, there is nothing trivial about sexual contact between adults and minors. It is illegal and even when perceived as consensual can have unintended, lasting negative consequences.

[Tom K]

Maybe, but those negative consequences come about because Americans have been taught irrational ideas about sex.