'I did not choose to sleep with the devil'

Sad snip and quote from Mark Morris' story about the man sentenced to 45 years in prison for knowingly infecting one woman, and exposing another, with HIV:

Weeping on the stand, the woman said she had lived a modest, risk-free life before becoming involved with Williams.

“I did not choose to sleep with the devil,” she said. “He knowingly gave me gonorrhea and HIV and seemed very proud of it.”

| Sara Shepherd

Comments

[Searching]

You knowingly laid down and had unprotected sex with someone you obviously knew nothing about...

[Searching]

So, yeah, yeah you did CHOOSE to sleep with the devil.

[JB]

Get a vibrator!

[Truth Teller]

I seriously doubt these poor little victims led the "pure" life they want others to believe they did. You play, you pay! Simple as that. As for the guy - sounds like he knew what he was doing and deserves to be put away for life. 45 years old should do the trick, provided he doesn't get out early. The silver lining - hope he's put in with the worst of the worst and can spread his love around.

[Dan]

Be careful when you go fishing, you just might catch something...

[Jellybean]

The man has an incurable fatal disease which he is knowingly giving to others. That being the case, I think it's pretty unfair to attack the WOMEN'S morals.
Sure, they have some responsibility for their recklessness - but their sin is tiny in comparison.
Women who enjoy an active sex life just for the Fun of It generally know how to keep it safe and fun. It's the women who are trading sex in hopes of curing their loneliness who end up being victims like this.

[Scott]

Actually there was recently a case where AIDS was cured through a bone marrow transplant... don't know if this is repeatable, but it is great progress.
This guy is not without fault, he needs to do his time, but these girls are not without blame. You don't meet someone on a chat line, and then trust them completely like this. That is just stupidity! This reminds me of the Ron Mexico / Michael Vick saga a few years back. I don't feel bad for these girls at all. When you have unprotected sex with a stranger you run the risk.

[Big Dog]

I have first hand knowledge of situations like this. If you think that you are cautious and least likely to expose yourself, you're wrong. Even if you're in a committed relationship, you can still be exposed. To often I deal with people who find out their spouse/partner is doing things they had no clue of. One thing to keep in mind is that you're not with your partner 24/7 and it only takes a moment to have some kind of sexual contact. I've had people who prostituted on craigslist, men and women because they can be anonymous. Most people don't know all modes of transmission either.

[Searching]

t's the women who are trading sex in hopes of curing their loneliness who end up being victims like this.

Posted by: Jellybean | Wednesday, November 26, 2008 at 09:09 AM

How does this not reak of desparate ho? If this is all the respect you have for yourself, then you are putting yourself in danger and have no one to blame but yourself

big dog unfortunately, this is not the case. they slept with someone they hardly knew and did not even try to protect themselves.

[Jellybean]

Yeah, Searching, I know that's the kind of woman that other women will call "slut", "hoe", "strumpet", etc...
I just have always felt sorry for them (unless they mess with married men - the hell with those chicks).
I feel sorry for them because I don't think they want to be that way. I don't think they're enjoying it. I think they are sad, damaged, lonely, pathetic individuals. They're hurting themselves - the men that involve with them are unfeeling scum - and women distain them.
I try not to judge them too harshly. I just pity them.

[Searching]

I pity them.. but I also hold them responsible.

[Big Dog]

Another point of view of this is that some women know that their partner is HIV positive and believe that is the person their going to spend the rest their life with (without a ring) which is still a bad idea. When they break up then they want to report them. Its illegal to expose someone to HIV once you know you have it, even if you tell them you got it.

[Jellybean]

Well, Big Dog - that sure sounds like its own special category of stupid. I don't know if I have enough pity in me to cover that.

[Ralfred]

"I just have always felt sorry for them (unless they mess with married men - the hell with those chicks)."

Why blame the women? They didn't take an oath, it was the married man.

[D-man]

the only way to get rid of it is to give it to 5 people. Aids is like a chain letter.

Dammit D-man, you made me laugh out loud! I'm supposed to be working.

[Jellybean]

Ralfred - because then they are hurting other people.
My point is that people vilify women who sleep around alot as if they are bad and immoral. I say that we should pity them because they are not so much "bad" as they are lonely and depressed. Some men will take advantage of this, using them as unpaid prostitutes - then calling them "sluts" for being so vulnerable and lacking respect for themselves.
However, I won't pity anyone who willingly takes part in hurting others - such as by messing with a married man.

BZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ....ah....ah..ah.ah!!!!!

[Ralfred]

Jellybean,

I believe if a person is single, it is not their responsibility to determine whether a person of interest is married, single, engaged, separated, etc.

The person of interest knows what commitments he/she has made.

[Jellybean]

I guess we'll just have to disagree on that.
I don't pry into or judge the sex lives of my female friends. I don't care how much they're getting or who their getting it from. BUT, if I knew one of them was messing with married guys - I wouldn't be friends with her anymore. You just don't treat other women that way.

I messed wit a married man and I regret it. I found out quickly that they are selfish idiots. You're better off messing with an ungreatful single jerk.

[lame]

wow, i never been in a room where there was such perfection and clean lifestyles.. Is it easy being perfect??? Everyone has made stupid mistakes, whether it was in your teen years or in you adult life. I think we as a society should show some sympathy and not be so course.. She is gonna pay for this mistake forever. How "matter a fact" would you all be if it was your daughters? Ohhh I forget you all are perfect so I'm safe to assume your children are also... She did something very stupid, whether it was out of ignorance or low self worth. She is still a human.

[Scott]

Yes she is a human who had unprotected sex with a stranger who is also a human. There is fault amongst everyone here... don't know why such a normally good judge at sentencing gave him the max and stacked his sentences for a bunch of crappy people making mistakes.

[lame]

I would like to make it clear that I do NOT think that knownly infected someone with a diease is a "mistake." I think this man is a p.o.s. and should get the maxium penalties allowed in our country. I think he had malintent and probably was angry at the world more specifically women for his disease and tried to have his own form of justice.. He should be euthanized.

Searching, take your Dr. Laura drivel and shove it.

[mo ky fellow]

I have said before and I will keep repeating myself. The answer to the problem in all three of these lives is God. We need to get God into our lives, God into our homes, God back into our public schools and in many cases get God back into churches.

[T]

To Anon:

You may consider Dr. Laura's comments to be drivel, but one inescapable fact confronts you:

Had the victims here followed her "drivel" they would not be in the fix they find themselves.

BTW, that in no way absolves the POS who knowingly infected these people. His is the only crime here.

[AG]

If a married person is cheating is someone who is not married, why would you blame anyone other than the married cheat?

Nice the see the double-standard is alive and well in not going away soon. Women who sleep around are sluts; men who sleep around are just acting like guys act.

And in this case, doesn't matter how long anyone had known anyone, who was a slut or not -- this guy lied and knowingly spread a potentially deadly disease. And that should always be a crime.

Think about it people - it could just as easily have been your, wife, your daughter, your sister or your mother in a momement of weakness this guy infected -- it didn't have to have been someone your think is morally inferior.

Searching: You are a sick person to blame the women. She was careful enough to ask him if he is clean or not. Regardless of what they did, he tried to kill them and ruin their quality of life by giving them AIDs.

Instead of passing the blame to the women, why don't you hold the guy responsible for his actions too?

[Nemesis]

"I did not choose to sleep with the devil," she said.

Sad, but that is exactly what she did.

My cousin was killed by a drunk driver. I guess he's responsible since he was sober and driving at 2:00 AM in the morning.

It's always easy to judge and criticize others. It would be be easy to look back at any of our lives and find bad judgement or mistakes -- and often we were not held accountable due to luck or oversight. Unless we could be there, we don't know the circumstances behind all this. It is terribly sad all around and let's not forget they all are being held responsible for their actions.

So getting God back into the schools is going to make scumbags think twice about infecting someone with HIV? I don't think so. God or "lack of it" has nothing to do with what this man was thinking.

[Big Dog]

A lot of people with risky sex behavior don't wanna know if they have some kind of infection unless it manifest its self. This guy was prosecuted only because it was documented that he knew he had HIV and he knew the law pertaining to it. The law says you are held accountable to tell everyone you have sex with whether you use protection or not that you have the virus. You also have to tell medical personnel that may draw your blood or come in contact with your bodily fluids that you have it before hand. The dead give away that your having unprotected sex is that you get another infection like syphilis or chlamydia or gonorrhea.

I work in this field and there are a lot of scenarios that put unsuspecting people at risk. There are a lot of lifestyles that people are naive to that put them at risk. Atlanta has a huge community of what they call down low (dl) men who are professionals, prominent, leaders and are married with family's but they like to have sex with men on the side.

[wes]

It wasn't god or the devil that made the choice to have sex with the guy. I hate it when religous people blame crap on there space god. Just like good ol' ted the preacher bashing gays and drugs and then is caught in a bathroom with a male hooker and meth in his pocket. But it wasnt him it was the devil. BS..I feel sorry for the lady but it had nothing to do with god, it has everything to do with personal choices.

[wes]

That don't excuse this scumbag from blame. He needs to be dealt with but for her to get on the stand and say " I didn't choose to sleep with the devil" is wrong, If she hadn't he would be up on rape charges.

All of these people act like they are saints. There is not many people that can actually say that they have not done something stupid in their lives. None of us know what happened and what was said. Who knows if they were not in a so called "relationship". Don't judge someone because they had sex with someone. If this was a man then it would be horrible that a woman did this to him. But when it is a woman who has sex she is a slut or whore. Is this not 2008?

[Earwicker]

They DO make female condoms which can be preinserted. They even make them to prevent rape. The sexual victimization card is no longer trump for women.

JELLYBEAN: It is the responsibility of the single person to determine whether a person of interest is married, single, engaged, separated, etc. I have no pity for them or you. How dare you to get involved with a married man. I consider you in the same catagory as "slut", "hoe", "strumpet", etc...

[wendell O. Maness]

This whole AIDS explosion came from unprotected sex in the San Francisco area. It can be traced back to a male flight attendant that frequented bath houses. Now its everywhere. It could have been prevented had san francisco groups used condomw. Thats a historical fact.

[Jellybean]

What did I do? I said I wouldn't even be friends with someone who messed with married men - then, someone called me names for it. :-( How rude.

[Alan]

Whatever, Clinton.