I am grieved that partners Lisa Marie Pond and Janice Langbehn were not able to be together as Lisa died (2/17, Opinion, “Anti-gay policies simply cruelty, hatred wrapped up as morality”). I wish Lisa had brought a health-care directive with her on their trip so that there would have been no legal way to keep her from the one she loved.
I am glad Janice is suing the hospital, and I hope she wins. But in my compassion, I am not willing to embrace the illusion that same-sex unions are the same as heterosexual marriage.
Children raised by two women are missing the essential masculine influence only a father can provide (as so eloquently described by Barack Obama in his 2008 Father’s Day speech). Children raised by two men are deprived of the feminine nurture unique to mothers (which science has rather clinically identified as hormonally inspired).
While families take many forms in modern society, there can be no substitute for the ideal gender complementarity found in marriage. Laws seeking to preserve this ideal are founded not on hatred of homosexuals but concern for the children of our future.
It would be incomprehensible for a husband not to be admitted to his wife’s bedside at a hospital, and columnist Leonard Pitts sees right through the charade of Florida’s Marriage Protection Amendment.
Despite a slow integration of openly gay and lesbian citizens into our society, there is still much work to be done for everyone to be treated with equality and fairness as witnessed in the case in Florida. Glass ceilings, racism and homophobia are all wounds upon our nation, still waiting to be healed.
Heartland Men’s Chorus addresses these issues in our next concert, “And Justice for All,” featuring the songs of the civil rights movement, March 28-29 at the Folly Theater. As Kansas City’s gay men’s chorus, we take these issues seriously and address them through our music for those who want to hear it and, more important, for those who need to hear it.
Joseph P. Nadeau
Artistic director, Heartland Men’s Chorus