Giving kids too much

Viewers began to see the demise of the darling "Jon & Kate Plus Eight" family on TLC when the parents started showering too many parties, party dresses, amusement parks, playhouses, puppies and attention on their young children.

Their sole purpose in life began to be "whatever makes my kids happy." Did no one ever teach them that in order to have happy children, first comes a loving, happy, devoted, responsible, committed mommy and daddy?

On the other hand, the other large family reality show on TLC "18 Kids and Counting" shows parents who love God and each other first and then shower their children with that love -- plus a good dose of love, duty to their country and being thrifty. They play and pray together as a family, sharing what they have with those in need and knowing that the whole world does not revolve around them.

God bless the Jim Bob and Michelle Dugger family.

Mary Pat Miller

Overland Park

Comments

[Casady]

I dunno NM. I guess stats don't lie. It's nice to know that I associate with people who perhaps recognized that their marriage could not work but chose to put their kids first when working out their divorces and not use them as a pawn. As it should be.

[Jazz-Man]

Fellas I will get back on the subject but I had to hear off the radio and now www.kansascity.com that my little Cuz Gevante was charged with the murders of the four people in Raytown. Please pray for my family. He deserves what he gets but still hard for the family.

Back on subject, Thanks for the concern, some time I wish that I would have done something to warrant the abuse from her and the court system. My mother worked at the courthouse for 35 years and was the first black clerk; she worked for two really awesome judges, Martin Div 10 and Murphy Div 10&15 I believe. She knows everyone and when I was going through my divorce she asked me who I have as a judge and I told her Christine Still Rodgers, she took a deep breath and said son you need to ask for a new judge. I said why she said because you have the worse judge when it comes to divorces and the mad gets the shaft every time. I tried to modify but was denied.

Too make a long story longer I have been asked to give up my parental rights by her, I have showed up for my visitation and she was not there and wouldn’t answer the phone and all because SHE KNOWS I CANT AFFORD TO TAKE HER TO COURT. My son is 12 now and he starting see how she acts and is starting to despise her all while I still tell him to love and respect his mother. Ok I’m don’t but it hurts my heart when I cant be with my son and not see him even for 5 days.

[NoMoreMrNiceGuy]

One more note. Why do courts not allow NCPs to PROVIDE versus forking over cash that is often spent on other than the children?
Single parents get EIC, CTCC, NCPs get nothing.

[NoMoreMrNiceGuy]

Casady you might want to research the national statistics on the subject. Simply not the case. Just think, the Bradley Amendment protects the system when it knowingly screws up. Funny how the State and CPs have 100% unlimited legal counsel and the courts take their side 99.9999999999% of the time, whiel NCp have no recourse unless they are loaded with cash for hundreds of hours of legal fees.
All social workers and State AAGs have to do is slap the docs in front of the judge and they sign them, no questions asked.
I think Susan Montee pretty much proved the fraud and criminal activity by the State, of course no one cares about that. Just hang men. All parents should have to spend whatever some deadbeat lawyer in a robe says on their children, whether you can afford it or not.

[JoCo]

Withya, Casady,

My boy's 19 now and commuting from home to UMKC, but I know, and OK, I hope for his imminent launch. But when he was 2 and I worked outta town M-F, I about lost it sometimes. Just one of those deals: we go out to earn our living for the one's who we're apart from. J and everyone, please maintain a good balance between the 2. You know it flies by.

[Casady]

Sorry about your arrangement J-Man. I could imagine going more than a couple of days without seeing my son. I guess I hear about the shafts that men get in divorce but in most cases that I know of first hand (i. e friends who have gone through it), the outcome is usually amicable with joint custody arrangements. Not sure where it went wrong for you but I am sorry that it did.

[JoCo]

To hell with all us dysfunctionals.

[Jazz-Man]

Mmmm, don’t get me started on this....too late, I wish blessing on those families for their kids sake but lets talk about the single fathers that do and I said do give a crap. Where’s the blessing on us, we give give give and get nothing in return like more time to spend with our kid; oh wait we get summons to go to court to modify child support lol. Its crazy sorry I got off subject.

One more thing, I get my son for a week this summer when its suppose to be for a month. Since my ex wife has the UPPER hand in the situation she only gives him to me for a week then turned around and says we will let you know about our week of uninterrupted time! Your uninterrupted time? I get hi8m every other weekend and the opposite Sunday; out of 365 days a year I only see him 65 days and you need a week of uninterrupted time all while not folloi8ng through with court order? Ok I'm done lol.

[NoMoreMrNiceGuy]

According to family courts, there is no such a thing a giving kids too much.
Too bad the laws do not apply to married parents as well as unmarried or divorced parents. God forbid you can not afford to buy or participate in something for the chilrden, you can find yourself in debtors prison.