Unfettered Letters

Sick of silly women

This letter has been brought on by “The Bachelor,” the reunification of Chris Brown and Rihanna and the show “Tool Academy,” among many countless other examples. I don’t know about you, but I am sick of silly women! A few silly women make us all look bad.

From one single woman to others, please consider this advice:

Have some respect for yourself.

Believe that you are worth pursuing and waiting for.

There’s nothing wrong with being a little reserved. It adds to the mystery.

Choose to love a man who loves you.

Believe that there are nice men out there. If you believe this is true, you are less likely to pine away for garbage.

I am an unmarried woman in what is said to be one of the worst cities in America in which to be single. It can be difficult and frustrating, but please, ladies, let’s all grow up and quit being a bunch of whiny clowns.

When we demand more, men will take all of us more seriously.

Shannon French
Kansas City

Boomers, date your age

This is an open letter to all my fellow baby boomers. I think it’s time we appreciate the skin we’re in.

I’m so tired of reading articles about older men and women dating younger people for their “hard bodies.” Now it seems women in their late 40s and 50s are choosing to date men in their 20s and 30s. Why?

The media tell me women want younger men for their six-pack abs and bulging biceps. Really? And older men want younger women for their youthful bodies. No news there. Is this why my generation has turned into a bunch of neurotic, youth-seeking, self -absorbed hypocrites?

Here’s a reality check, boomers: We’re not going to live to be 100 and look eternally 30 in the process. When did aging turn into a four-letter word, anyway?

Of course, it’s important to take care of oneself. Eating right and exercise just make good sense. But maybe we should concentrate on being good role models and mentors to our younger generation instead of trying to date them.

Mary Jo Wheeler
Kansas City

Not just the young

Not all singles are ages 20 to 34. For several weeks, The Star ran articles on dating focused in that direction.

There are thousands of us over 50 who are single or divorced or widowed.

The 20-to-34 group will generally find each other. It’s not as easy when you’re over 50.

Most of us are still healthy and active, and our kids are grown. And for the most part, we still look pretty good.

Give us a break.

Patti Weinrich Davis
Prairie Village

Desperate dates

I have found The Star’s series on the dating scene in Kansas City very disheartening. I thought women went out with me because I was funny and interesting. It turns out they were just desperate.

Cliff Group
Kansas City